Bipolar Attraction

So, I just went to see 'He's just not that into you' along with every other girl in the area tonight. It covered the basics of a guy not being into a girl; not calling, not wanting to marry, cheating, and giving bad brush of lines but it did not cover the one thing girls REALLY wonder about.

Why do guys call, act very interested, spend time with you and then disappear only to resurface again to start the process all over? I call this bipolar attraction and it is something myself, as well as just about ALL of my female friends deal with on a regular basis. Is it that society has formed a bunch of pussies who are afraid of commitment? Are there so few guys left out there that they are getting the pleasure of juggling a few of us and can't decide which to pick? How can you determine that he's just not that into you when you are receiving numerous calls and text messages? This is where it just isn't clear!

I have decided to set up a clear list of standards that might help put this confusing guy into perspective.

First, this guy will usually sweep you off of your feet in the beginning. He DOES call you, he DOES text you, he even takes you out and spends great amounts of time on you. Magically (or more like, horrifically) he stops everything. What do you do? Obvious choice is stalking, just kidding. You are more likely to complain to your best friends and blame yourself. You must have done something to drive him away! WRONG.

That brings us to the first standard: If he disappears for more than 3 days with no word, he attraction for you is bipolar and not your fault.


Next, he will usually come back with some sort of excuse. "Oh hey, I have been so busy with work for the last two weeks, I didnt have a minute to call or text you. Want to get together?" By now you have probably tortured yourself for the last two weeks on what you possibly did to drive him away and are just so relieved to hear he wants to hang out that you jump at this chance. Stop and think about this- TWO WEEKS?!? I'm sure he had time to go to a drive thru for lunch at some point or watch his favorite tv shows, he couldn't send a hello text? Hell, if he was that busy a smiley face is only two characters.

This is where you must stop and think: He has a bipolar attraction in addiction to being a bullshit liar

After this, if you are smart and resist his offer he will realize persistence is the only option. Texts and calls will pour in like black people at an Obama rally. He will tell you he misses you, can't stop thinking of you, wishes you would just hang out with thim, etc. This will probably weaken your resistance and eventually you will go against all of your instincts and friends sound advice.

Don't. As soon as you give in, things will go smoothly until his Bipolar ways kick in again. Why not just go to a pet store if you want to play with a dog that badly.

The hard part for girls is realizing when you have been burned enough by the same person because you can convince yourself that he hasn't actually done anything. Well, exactly. He is a bipolar bullshit artist, remember this.

Meanwhile, like all girls in love with a loser, you have a decent guy waiting to date you but unfortunately the thought of sleeping with him usually induces vomit. Don't think you have to give this guy a shot, he will usually turn out to be just as bad if not worse. The nice guys are actually jerks in disguise these days. It is as if men all over have subscribed to Oprah magazine, studied the tips and use them for evil rather than good. The shows are getting more elaborate and the bullshit even thicker. The best way to tell if a guy is worth your time just usually by instinct and by listening to your friends.

Sure, your friends may seem like jealous bitchy losers with no dates of their own, but chances are their loser sense is more heightened than yours with it comes to this guy. They don't have the clouded affect your brain gets when you see things like "Hey baby, just thinking of you". They only see a guy who hasn't called you in two weeks.

Now remember, bipolar attraction works both ways. Think about this- when you flirt with a guy for awhile and then disappear, what are you usually doing in between? Talking to a new guy? Talking to an old guy? You can pretty much bet there is always someone else.

There you have it, my short break down of the problem girls face in the dating world. I think I might take on more of these deep questions later.